Simple historical example: slaveholder says Frederic Dougles should be slave. Douglas does not want to be whipped nor slave again. They are enemies, full stop. Not partners. Same examples exist with any other country history.
Simple current example: Take the model abortion legislative currently proposed. It literally says that raped 10 years old must give birth regardless of threat to her health.
These people are not partners. They are in fact threats and if they win, actual raped kids will he harmed.
please don't simply "think of the children". think both openly and critically.