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1. simonb+ea[view] [source] 2021-03-28 19:38:04
>>femfos+(OP)
> I’m not going to suggest a solution to the problem of men clamming up.

I find this a little frustrating, they’ve noticed a pattern of behaviour that concerns them in an area they are clearly invested in - yet they have no thoughts or suggestions on how to address this? Is it possible they are not offering such thoughts because of the same issue they have highlighted in the article?

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2. zepto+Eb[view] [source] 2021-03-28 19:44:47
>>simonb+ea
Why does someone need to have a solution in order for their observation of a problem to be considered valid?

Maybe the problem is real but they just don’t have as solution?

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3. flir+We[view] [source] 2021-03-28 20:00:07
>>zepto+Eb
I noticed it happened a lot on MeFi when I was active there. Vast reams of text about how terrible X is, but ask what we should do about it and... crickets.

Yes, the observation's valid, but... I don't know. When the conversation keeps happening the same way, over may topics, you have to figure there's something deeper going on.

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4. zepto+yh[view] [source] 2021-03-28 20:12:36
>>flir+We
There’s obviously something deeper going on.

Can you say what you think it is?

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5. flir+ki[view] [source] 2021-03-28 20:17:09
>>zepto+yh
Ironically, no. I only noticed the pattern ;)
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6. rudyfi+bR[view] [source] 2021-03-29 00:08:38
>>flir+ki
Some guesses on possible sources of the pattern for you:

1. Criticism is fast and easy compared to thinking up a solution; building the solution; trying to show a solution works; etc. Criticism has the benefit that it can be directed to any sub-part and does not have to, necessarily, take in (or understand) the whole.

2. Criticism is, generally, perceived as "socially safer" than creation. For example, it's easier to say "I don't like X or Y about something" than it is to say "I think that X or Y should be changed to A or B." Proposing the change exposes one to criticism.

3. Criticism, in many ways (thinking of many college courses here), is what folks are often trained in as compared to creation. I think an outcome is that we learn to "see" faults more than we learn to "see" solutions. To be clear, I think folks learn to create in their vocation, but outside of that, necessarily, limited sphere, folks are most often trained as critics, rather than creators.

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