The way I see it is if a person’s intent is seeking either sympathy or any social value proposition HN is likely not the ideal venue. It’s like the taboo of talking about politics in the office for those of us who don’t live in the valley where that is more generally accepted.
I've written extensive explanations about this: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&qu.... If anyone reads those and has a question that isn't answered yet, I'd like to know what it is. Some good threads to start with might be https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21607844 and https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22902396. Also https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17014869, which shows how far back political discussion goes on HN, as well as the argument about politics on HN.